As I've often casually said, "I feel ya...", as you note, is likely me feeling my own feelings, not the other's. Asking the other to express what they are feeling / not feeling is closer to gaining understanding. A further note can be to consider how thoughts can contain feelings, while remaining thoughts. For example, "When I am in balance, I'm lighter on my feet." Asking the other to express thoughts can bring ideas that may hold feelings not actively felt or expressed. Also, of course, this also might bring thoughts that are empty of feelings, e.g. the proudly calcified might say "I don't care what the other thinks as I know I am right." Thanks for continuing to research how we human beings experience / don't experience each other.
Thank you, Robert! This - "A further note can be to consider how to maintain feelings, while remaining thoughts" - is a great addition. Evaluating thoughts more objectively is a valuable skill in and of itself!
As I've often casually said, "I feel ya...", as you note, is likely me feeling my own feelings, not the other's. Asking the other to express what they are feeling / not feeling is closer to gaining understanding. A further note can be to consider how thoughts can contain feelings, while remaining thoughts. For example, "When I am in balance, I'm lighter on my feet." Asking the other to express thoughts can bring ideas that may hold feelings not actively felt or expressed. Also, of course, this also might bring thoughts that are empty of feelings, e.g. the proudly calcified might say "I don't care what the other thinks as I know I am right." Thanks for continuing to research how we human beings experience / don't experience each other.
Thank you, Robert! This - "A further note can be to consider how to maintain feelings, while remaining thoughts" - is a great addition. Evaluating thoughts more objectively is a valuable skill in and of itself!